The Sexual Revolution... I Know We Went Through it, But Did They?

We all know how the sexual revolution took place in the United States. Birth control was introduced and women realized that sex was not just for making children, but also for pleasure. Women's suffrage movement and the sexual revolution completely changed our role in the world.... at home.... at work... but it also changed our relationships with men.

Women made the decision to be viewed differently by the world, an though it was successful in doing so in most of the arenas of the world, when it comes to romantic relationships with men I really wonder... Did they go through the Sexual Revolution too?
I don't think they burned the bras. I don't think it was them who realized that their bodies where their own and that they could choose. I don't think they fought the battles or even remember that they were in fact battles that were waged. They still see us in the same way they used to when it comes to romantic relationships:

They are the hunters. We are the prey.

The truth is that the rules of dating have changed for us, but not for them. So, essentially, we are playing two different games on the same field, which can be very dangerous because there is no referee on the field. There is no such thing as equal opportunity dating. We have come to believe that times have changed and men changed with them. We think they will not judge us if we sleep with them too soon, but they do. We think it's OK to make the first move and that we can call him whenever we want because it's 2011 and why should we wait by the phone? Why can't we be proactive? Because to them that's not our place, that's their job and not ours. But even though the rules may be the same, the lines can get blurry and confusing. For example: If you like a guy and he lives across the country... what are you supposed to do? If you go visit him and pay your own way then you're giving it to him on a silver platter. If he pays your way then there's expectations when you get there. If you don't go at all you miss you on what can possibly be an amazing experience. So what are you supposed to do? I guess it all depends about what you want or expect. 
When it comes to all other aspects of our life we are taught to go out and find what we want and fight for it if we have to. The clause here is: that doesn't apply when it comes to romantic relationships with men. As a woman, you cannot go out and actively pursue a man. It just doesn't work. It does matter who makes the first move; it does matter who calls who and it does matter how long you wait until you let him lay a finger on you. That part of the game didn't change. We are still prey and they are still the hunters and they love the thrill of the chase.  I don't particularly like this because I don't like the appear weaker then I am just to appease their egos. I have to be less of me so you can be more of you?

In my opinion we have to be strong women because the world that surrounds us requires it, however; we have to be delicate and approachable so we are not scary. Did I put on a big scary mask and say "BOO!" to make you turn pale and run in the opposite direction?...

How did a 120 lb woman become scary to a man? To me this is hilarious. The more accomplished we are, the more intimidating we become... and then you meet a guy who's self-esteem is so low all he wants to do is put you down and minimize what you're about... reduce to the minimal expression of yourself, just so he can feel like a man. To me... that's the sorry excuse for a man... the kind that has to assert himself by intimidating you, making you feel scared...To some your success makes them feel unnecessary... and therefore less masculine. We let experiences like that, with "men" like those, convince us that we cannot be all that we can be and find a man that will accept us for who we are. How many women downplay their achievements and their brains to get a guy?
This is the part of men not evolving that I don't agree with... the part I can't stand. But there are two great things that come with playing the game on their terms:
1 - If we really understand that this as a position of power, it makes it not just tolerable but rewarding. Let him hunt all he wants.... embrace being a woman... being the prey. There is a saying in Spanish, "El hombre propone y la mujer dispone." - The man proposes and the woman chooses.  This is the chance we get to really be romanced by a man. The part that we yearn for and that we don't get to see nearly as much as we'd like. This is where we mess up. We want to show them how strong and independent we are and we miss out on all the romance. I mean, men have waged wars for the women they loved. Remember Helen of Troy and the subsequent battle of Troy?... she let him cross an ocean and lead a war for her affections. The least we could do is let them light some candles, send us messages... pick us up at home and walk us to the door. Let them flash their feathers like peacock and show us how great they are remembering everything we are worth.
This brings me to point number 2.
2- Picking men who admire us for being the amazing and accomplished women that we are and that don't feel threatened or emasculated. Just because I can provide for myself and I am successful, it does not mean he is less of a man. We should pick men that are at our level... emotionally, intellectually and physically. That's what I like to call the trifecta. The guy you can have a connection with on those three levels is rare and priceless. We usually see two out of the three... and we settle... well I want more. I want the trifecta, I deserve it and so does every other woman I know.
I think the only way get there is to get on the same page with them.  What I gather is that the women's sexual liberation changed the way WOMEN establish relationships, but not the way men see them. To them the fact that we are playing by a different set of rules gives them an easy way to get a lot of stuff from us for free. The truth is if you want this package you have to make an investment... work for it and I don't mean buy your way in. I mean sweep me off my feet, show me you are worth my time and mean it because I am smart enough to see right through your crap. Be a man and I'll be a woman... the amazing, independent and secure woman that I am.